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Trip to the park.

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

My dear Oscar,

I took a trip to the park.

These were my impressions:

She knew, as soon as she walked into the cafe-cum-shop that was located in the middle of the park, that she was destined to buy much more than she actually wanted or needed.

“Oh – and an ice cream – yes, just vanilla – and one of those tray bakes – the flapjack – yes, with the chocolate chips.  Frothy coffee – large – and I’ll take a packet of those shortbread biscuits too, for later.”

She knew that she was lying, and slowly rubbing her pregnant belly she paid for all of her items, and imagined herself on a bench, sitting alone, devouring the whole lot.  It happened …

… and the breeze blew through the leaves.

His dog, old, but pert, grey haired like his master, could smell something that he found extremely attractive on the ground, and could not help himself but to roll onto his back, with his legs up in the air, and squirm and soak up the scent.

His master stood at a distance, watching, allowing this indulgence.  He was unconcerned and turned on his heel and started to saunter further away.  The little dog flipped into upright, stared through bleary eyes into the distance, was immobile apart from the quivering wetness of his black padded nose, picking out the odours prevalent, the smells that engulfed his very being.  He idly sought the shape of his master, just noticing the ambling outline in the distance, trotted towards him, was waylaid by some hot meaty and fatty sauce emanating from a child eating a burger at some considerable distance, saw his master again, trotted on, light on his feet, nimble.  His master barely waited for him, their companionship so close and so reliable that even at a distance they were always together, having learned to be tolerant, to put up with the peccadilloes.

Dinner time soon, he thought, with the burger smell still hanging slick in the atmosphere; I shall fry a fillet steak and I shall open that bag of oven chips ….

… leaves, green, twinkling in the sunlight.

… the bough of the great oak tree was a miracle, growing at a horizontal angle from the side of the trunk.  It wended a spidery web into the atmosphere, and just, … how powerful must that age old tree be to bear the weight of that horizontal bough, to keep it in place, to stop its great, great weight from crashing and falling.

Stately, and gargantuan, and forever.

“It’s nice, isn’t it, that they stayed friends”.

“Hm”, he said.

His hairy legs were out in the sunlight, manly strides as she bounced at his side, holding his hand as if she had to.  Really they looked like children, too young to be so committed, building a life together, planning a whole existence.  And it was clear that she got on his nerves something dreadful, but there was nothing to be done, they had decided, they had been kicking around together for a few years now, since university, and so their future was unfolding on a set path to which they gave very little thought.

She grated on him, with her plaintive whining, her neediness, her clinging stickiness, her ‘reward you with sexual activity’ attitude, minor sexual activity, predictable, just enough.  He knew already that the years would slip by, with a baby or two, and his hard work, his never ending work, and the mortgage, parents, get togethers, Christmases, Easters, New Years, just years and years, and already he just wanted to scream.

… a squirrel, like an undulating wave, hopped across the expanse of lawn as if nobody was there, and then scurried straight up one of the biggest trees, with a vertical climb that rattled audibly, just pin-pricked its way up tha bark, and was gone into the foliage.

He walked to the park.

His baby was dead.

His wife was alive.

He walked to the park.

They were jogging.

They were cycling.

They were out in their cars.

Everything that they were doing went no higher than two metres, just a seam of activity, babble, interaction, caution, wide eyed wariness.  Dogs and children and adults and the aged doddering along.

Just above them all, just a few centimetres above them all – the earth soared.

My best wishes to you, as always,

Your friend,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

The heterosexual matrix

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

You were caught within the heterosexual matrix so prevalent in your age, with your marriage to Constance, your fathering of two children, your position in the world as a man about town earning a good living and succeeding in your chosen career. We all now know that this was a sham, or only a part-truth, and that the impositions of such a matrix were not at all appropriate for your actual proclivities. So of course this does raise a question about your being heterosexual, and I think quite equally it also raises a question about your being exclusively homosexual. Maybe you were just greedy, a gourmand out to sate your pleasure principle no matter what the cost, with no thought to the social proprieties by which you appeared to live. I find the collapse of the dichotomous relationship between heterosexuality, with its overarching dominance, and homosexuality, endlessly subsumed and denied, quite fascinating; it seems to prove that neither polarity is near to the truth.

I have friends now, Oscar dear, who play within the heterosexual matrix and give in entirely to the proscriptions that surround them. It is for the women who are around me that I have a certain sympathy, because so many of them, despite the cause of feminism, seem to seek out the heterosexual ideal of the good, solid man, wage earning, dependable, on whom to rely. As a consequence they spend all of their time fulfilling versions of the feminine ideal, to whatever degree, and always to some extent allowing male dominance and decision making to hold sway. I listen to their voices, raised in alarm against many of the men who surround them, and see their lives unfolding within the strictures of the patriarchate, limiting their choices, stunting their growth, and catch myself noting that in very many cases they are playing along with the status quo – saying one thing and doing another. Not that I blame them – it is the power of the matrix to which they accede rather than any consciously personal perspective.

Very frustrating though. From the homosexual point of view, where so many of the structures imposed within the heterosexual matrix have already collapsed, and have to be mimicked in order to gain any validity within that separate sphere of being, there seems to be no escape. So long as we all play along ,the caravanserai simply progresses, always in essence the same.

Are there other ways of being, or do we already know the end of the story?

Your friend,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

Great expectations

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

I do not know if you were a fan of Charles Dickens, but his books in their serialised form would have been current to your own evolution. My suspicion is that, much as is the case with soap opera in our modern era, the supposedly educated classes would have looked down slightly on works that were popular, and so it would be no surprise to learn that a certain acerbic element of your wit would have been directed at this particular auteur.

In fact as a part of your legacy we have the quotation attributed to yourself that: “You would need a heart of stone not to laugh at the death of Little Nell”. I can imagine that the heightened realms of aestheticism would have had no truck with the melodrama of serialised story-lines, and that the belief that you saw Dickens as ‘overly sentimental’ would fit well with how you are yourself remembered. But you must admit that he was very popular, that his fame and success were undeniable, and that his impact has been far broader in its reach than your own.

All of its time, of course.

Philip ‘Pip’ Pirrip is a young lad of ‘great expectations’ in the novel ‘Great Expectations’ (1860), but all of those expectations are centred around himself. He will rise from a lowly state to a great one; he will become a ‘gentlemen’, and he will inherit a fortune, and he will marry the girl of his dreams, and despite his harsh upbringing and the suffering of his childhood, he will come to have all that he desires. In fact all of the ‘great expectations’ that are achieved by Philip ‘Pip’ Pirrip are entirely centred upon himself. He does little or nothing for the world that surrounds him.

Such a fantasised trope is still in evidence today, where lottery tickets are bought in the hope that a personalised realisation of dreams and aspirations can be reached, and where consumer goods are set in fairly easy reach in order to give the impression that individual lives are getting better. But I do wonder how people of today might word the ‘great expectations’ that might come from our age. I have a feeling that in very many cases they would not be centred upon self at all. In fact I have the impression that many, many subjects would rather see a peaceful and happy world, a calm and productive planet, acceptance and toleration between peoples, the subsuming of political and cultural difference, harmony, love. I think it is what future generations will look back upon and be thankful for in the days and ages to come.

Smiley face. Smiley face.

Best wishes, as always,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

Acceptance

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

So I am doing my best to be accepting, and not place myself in opposition to others. There is a popular mantra in this day and age that we should learn to be more tolerant of each other, and more accepting of human foibles and peccadilloes. Of course I have made a very good start with you, because I try my utmost not to be judgemental of you and to accept the fact that you lived the life you lived, however it may have been interpreted at the time, and by history. All I can do in retrospect is simply keep lines of communication as open as possible. The aim is then to allow your preoccupations to remain under consideration, as indeed they undoubtedly are, all this time later. You started something, Oscar. You started trains of thought and investigations that have still not yet reached their conclusion, and unfortunately you were ended before you had a chance to bring any of your lines of enquiry to a well-considered ending themselves.

I am starting to wonder though just how far acceptance can go. If it is true and honest and open acceptance then it will have to also be willing to incorporate views that might be so counterpoised to one’s own sense of moral, social and cultural propriety, as to put it all in question. Do we have to, for instance, accept that there will always be a murderous element to human existence, as there always has been? Would it be possible to launch some sort of cross-societal and multi-cultural investigation into the causes and consequences of such behaviour and therefore to eradicate it? It does not have to be, and I think there is probably never a real justification for it. There is always some way in which such an act can be challenged and avoided. Does our sense of acceptance have to incorporate it because it keeps on happening, or perhaps should we be collectively working towards the point where what we accept is only the best of each other, which in itself would outlaw such negative behaviours? It cannot possibly be argued that a murder is the best that any individual can do. It must be argued that encouraging us away from behaviours that might lead to such an act would be the best that we can do.

There would be countless examples of challenging all that we tolerate, but may not wish to accept. Apart from crimes against each other there would also be the collective unacceptability of corporate agencies. Logging companies in the Amazon, petro-chemical companies pillaging world resources, over-fishing of the oceans, the denying of basic elements for life to swathes of the global population; I cannot help thinking that there is some awareness growing that such challenges need to be underway. That fills me with hope, Oscar dear.

As you do, Oscar. Whatever your failings may have been you have influenced a legacy of hope. Sometimes it is hard to see, but if we keep on expecting the best of ourselves I cannot see that anything other is possible. Working on, and thinking through, levels of acceptance may well be the dilemma with which we all have wrestled through time; I am sure you did.

Your friend,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

Pleasantries are possible

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

In amongst all of the high drama of your being it must have been possible to be ordinary, just pleasant, open, accessible, passing the time of day in ways that were fruitful, interactive, with consideration. Or were you one of the those people who simply could not see others, was entirely indifferent to the needs of others, and who was simply not able to see the requirements of others because you were too besotted with the requirements of self.

I am sure you felt, for instance, that you were at several times completely in the sway of young Bosie, and constantly acceding to his demands, but I wonder whether you were giving him leeway because you wanted to keep him with you, and so of course were actually being self-serving even when supposedly being aware of someone else. I have noted it very often in human interaction – even my own, I have to admit; that we think we are being kind and supportive to another when in fact our primary consideration is bolstering the self. It is very rare indeed to see or hear of anything that is truly selfless, and I do wonder how possible it is, given that self-preservation is probably one of the primary instincts with which we as a race are blessed. What is more, it all seems so out of fashion nowadays.

The idea that one would sacrifice the self for some greater good or for the good of humanity as a whole, feels like something that might have been at some time or another, but really is not of the modern era. It is the stuff of a fantasy land – of knights in shining armour, or of Jesus on the cross and his host of self flagellants suffering for the good of us all. Does anyone do that sort of thing these days? Did they in your day, Oscar dear? Or is there always some kind of vainglorious association tied in with such pursuits?

You have yourself been cast in such a light; as if the suffering you underwent somehow had to be expected and endured in order to free future generations from the same sort of persecution. But I am afraid to report that it has not yet worked, not on a global scale (remember, Oscar, people on the planet today can still be put to death for homosexual acts in certain states), and is not even entirely achieved in the more liberal states (fingers still point, crimes are still committed, sexual minorities are still vilified even in the most free countries).

I think what I am arguing is that the price was very high for you to pay, and there is still a price attached, and so that notion of expectation and endurance continues; that of course minorities have to be positioned in ways to commit them to some form of suffering, because it is through their suffering that they are most generally known.

I just think it s possible that everything could be a lot simpler and a lot more pleasant; that acceptance could just mean acceptance. If I can have no expectations of others, and can accept them for who they are, whether that wavers, or is constant, whether it is true, or even false, then surely everyone can. I can assure you Oscar, there is nothing special about me.

Your friend,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

Equal

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

I hope this letter finds you well.

My preoccupation is with a phrase that sprang to mind when I was preparing to write to you, which is:

We may be equal in our suffering but not in our success.

I do not know where the phrase came from, nor why it should come into my mind, other than that in seeing the levels of association I have with you made me think that my understanding of your suffering is because I too share it. No, I have not had the same experience as you, and not lived the same life, but there are elemental points of reference that would bring us close together. The classification system which makes of us ‘homosexual’, our shared origins in Western Europe, our racial inheritance, and our state of gendered being (as it is defined binarily). These become over-arching and definitional, at least in the ways in which the societies around us will wish to make us known. In effect it is how we will be reported, even though what we actually share is a sort of very common humanity, which we share at the root with everyone else. The systemic reference points by which we are known only come into being once others and their judgements, culturally governed, come into being. We might be able to look at each other simply as human entities, and it is at this point that I can share your heartache, your indignation, and your suffering. In essence it is the same as understanding anyone else.

But what I would not be able to share with you is the level of your success, which grew from privilege; it is the sort of privilege experienced by only a few. There are not so many people on the planet who have the sort of access to success that you had, who move in circles where the currency is self-promotion, and where works and sayings and the very presence of self are celebrated. You were a very fortunate individual. As you scan the full span of humanity and history you must be able to see that you were far more fortunate than most, and that it was advantage, of class, of rank, of consequent education and access to an intellectual marketplace which brought about your glittering career. In some strange effect it was not you. It was not actually you who made it all happen, but it did all happen because of the world that surrounded you.

It is odd to note that I can easily assimilate your pain, but not your glory.

With best wishes,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

My own best friend

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

I wonder what sort of a friend you would have been to me, and what sort of a friend I would have been to you! I know there were those – Robbie Ross, for instance – who were devoted to you and endlessly supportive, but I fear I may have been the sort of person to be slightly wary of you, and not be particularly supportive of your worst crimes. I do not know, it is very hard to say because we are from different eras, and different social milieus.

I think I am a little judgemental, even to myself. If I were my own best friend I might well be quick to criticise, and also to condemn should I ever step out of line about anything. If I am ever speeding in my car, then there is always a voice in my head which slows me down, keeps me within the legal allowances, points out, as a friend and a confidant would, that there will be a heavy price to pay if I am found out, or if I cause any sort of accident. I am something of a sage counsellor, always thinking through the various ramifications of any course of action. I sometimes try the experiment though of being my own best friend, and of imagining what it would be like if I were looking at myself objectively, and could offer advice as only a friend can. Would I encourage myself to be more adventurous, to break the rules, to be more selfish and self-seeking? The position of the best friend may not always have in mind the best outcomes for the one who is befriended. In fact it might be argued that because it is something of an objective relationship, then the friend can project on to the other all of the possibilities that s/he is too averse to taking.

I think you would have ultimately been a caring friend, Oscar, someone who cared for the others who were in his life, as I must be to myself.

Best wishes, as ever,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

Frustration

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

I hope this letter finds you well, even though I am writing from a selfishly frustrated position, and will as usual simply offload my own preoccupations and thoughts, rather than give any consideration to you. In my mind I am writing to you while you are in prison, but I should more realistically acknowledge that I am communicating with someone who is dead. But you see, Oscar, I cannot help wondering what that actually means.

In this day and age it is possible to see performances by long dead entities. I believe there is a stage show featuring Elvis Presley (1935-1977) with tickets that can be purchased today, put together through some form of hologrammatic digital re-mastering; similarly of Whitney Houston (1963-2012), and no doubt other famous names who have departed. It is also possible to hear your own voice, Oscar dear, in a recording made over a century ago, so that even though you are no longer with us we can hear what you sounded like, your pitch and cadence, your accent. What we seem to be preserving is an essence of a self, not of course, an actual self, not a thinking, reactive individual, but at least some form of acknowledgement to what actually was. It is this process of actualisation that interests me. If I am never to meet you, do I meet you when I hear your voice? I will never be able to question you, human to human, but do I need to? I know everything there is to know about you – certainly a lot more than you know of me. You see, Oscar, your heart may have stopped beating, but I wonder if you are dead.

The frustrations to which I do not allude are those of everyday life, the normalities of everyday life, which the dead no longer have to endure. Perhaps you are now dead because you no longer have to experience the frustrations of the living, that are not worth remembering, and not worth taking to one’s grave.

Best wishes, as always,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

A competition of priorities

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

There are those who think that freedom is the absolute priority, freedom to say and do and be, and to some extent I understand the argument. But it also has to be recognised that absolute freedom would mean that people are free to undertake acts of atrocity, and I could not subscribe to that. So the question comes to be: freedom on whose terms?

I am sure you believed in your life time that you should have been free to lead the life that you wished to live, and there has now been over a century of civil unrest and political challenge throughout the world in order to try to achieve that. I suppose the attainment of such a level of freedom would have to ask the question as to whether these ‘freedoms’ were being won at the expense of others, and if that is not the case then all well and good.

But then again surely priorities should be far more basic, and commonly shared. Food, shelter, warmth, water; from such basics everything else can be built and developed. But it pains me to report, Oscar, that even in the advanced state of human evolution that we currently exist, there are still people who experience hunger, thirst, lack of protection against the elements. It is as if overlooking the plight of the weakest is somehow acceptable, with states, religions, charities, all looking the other way. Of course no single person can achieve enough to change it all, but so much of the collective consciousness seems to be about now knowing, not recognising, not responding. Preserve the self before you make any attempt to preserve the other – that appears to be the overriding philosophy. Again, I can understand the argument, but surely some awareness of the plight of others would benefit the whole.

I have travelled, Oscar, in the country of Vietnam, in the capital of Hanoi. What impressed me the most is that crossing the road was about simply stepping off the kerb, with awareness, with due care, and mingling with the hubbub. All traffic would give way to the weakest, so that pedestrians were given right of way, and motor vehicles would work around their needs. Just as cars would work around the needs of motorcyclists, and lorries of cars. It looked rather a chaotic system, but it seemed to work very effectively. What was most impressive, was that ‘giving way’, and understanding the needs of the weaker, were the order of the day. It seems to me that this could be translated in a much broader sense into our understanding of each other, and our recognition that selfish squandering is of little benefit to the whole.

Did you care, Oscar, for those who were weaker than you, less influential, less powerful, with no voice, no right to be heard, no social recognition? I think to some extent you came to, but only as you experienced levels of privation.

Best wishes,

Algernon B. Duffoure.

As if nothing is happening

/ Michael Michael / Leave a comment

Dear Oscar,

I hope you are at peace, rested, unassailed.

The daily assault of the mass media has already come upon me, as it is absolutely unavoidable in this modern age. I believe that you had newspapers to read, and even some black and white pictorialised magazines to consume, and that in the major cities young lads would stand on street corners and yell out the headlines in order to attract the purchasing of these organs. I believe that may have been the sum of the media. Apart from the theatre performances for which you were so famed, only accessible to the chattering classes, who would then chatter about the contents of the plays they saw upon the stage. Nothing more. Nowadays barely a moment goes by without mediated stories assaulting the populace from all angles, most pointedly now in the palm of one’s hand, as the mobile telephone ‘pings’ its unending importance, bringing us all what is termed ‘the rolling news’. It seems to be of significance for our culture to note that something is happening all of the time!

The peculiar thing is that once one sits back from it, mutes all of the noise, even ignores its insistence, that nothing really seems to be happening at all. There are endless sensationalised fusses made about supposed advancements in human achievement, both negative and positive, with details pored over and ‘evidence’ presented, but none of it really seems like very much at all. Man (or woman, or to my mind, human personage) climbs yet another mountain, and another one, and another one. It is as if humanity has to prove that it can overcome hurdle after hurdle that is set before its way – much of which, it has to be said, is self-imposed. We will defeat climate change (something that we, apparently, caused); we will restore the earth’s resources (all of which we greedily consume); we will conquer any threat to life that comes our way (even though we are the greatest threat to human life, over and over again). It is that last mentioned quality which hits me so hard the more that I think about it; the fact, dear Oscar, that it is ‘over and over again’.

These supposedly grand achievements dominate the headlines, relay to us all the victories and the conquests, the heights that we are able to scale, the grandness of our being, as a race, as a human race. I cannot help thinking that it is in our smallness that we are actually greater, far greater, and under-reported, under-represented, and under-recognised. Kind gestures; smiles; encouragement; the old person diligently avoiding the purchase of plastic; the young person deciding never to own a car; kisses; concerns; delivering shopping; singing a song, under one’s breath, on a bus, on a train; generosity which means sharing a meal, dropping a coin into an outstretched hand, buying a coffee with no requirement for payback; writing to a condemned man, a man condemned by history, martyred, remembered with reservation, and pledging,

I am, as always, your friend,

Algernon B. Duffoure.